Dear Readers,I think we all know the cliche about ignorance being bliss, however I realized that the true ticket to a successful healthy lifestyle and state of mind is over acceptance of your reality. The other day I read this article about radical acceptance, its basic premise was to accept the things we cannot change in our lives and by confronting what plagues us dead on you are no longer it's captive but rather it's ruler.
The timing couldn't have been better, because just 24 hours prior to that I decided to accept my state of mind and just come to terms with the reality of living with my anxiety. Since that day, I haven't been phased by my anxiety and I can honestly say I have never felt better as a result.
Im sure your all wondering how can the solution be so simple. Well, Im not claiming that it's a simple solution, but by overstating your problems you are just simply being self aware, that's not the same thing as really accepting who you are. If your not comfortable in your own skin, you will never be rid of your anxiety.
I suggest that you dont just remain aware but rather say to yourself that this is who I am and IM DAMN PROUD TO BE ME!!
Here are some rather simple techniques that I used to really start feeling better:
1. Stop thinking about the long term and focus on the present. We live in the world of wants and if you constantly are thinking about what you want as opposed to what you have than your not living in your own skin, your seeing the world through someone elses eyes. More than most times the way you imagine your future is never how things actually turn out. This is important because when you wrap your mind around the future and let go of the present you are adding fuel to the fire of anxiousness. You cant predict the future! If that's where you put your attention your mind begins to race and anxiety sets in because your dealing with something out of the realm of your control. For anyone who feels anxious, long term shouldn't equate to more than a week and that may even be a stretch, everything outside of that is overkill.
2. Remind yourself of the things that you are grateful for. Finding appreciation for the things you have in your life is essential to keeping a calm state of mind. Whether it be your fluffy little pet or that classic car in the garage, your family or your health. Think of the things you have and dont take for granted even the simplest treasures in your life.
3. Stay active. Dont give your mind free reign to wander in a million directions. If you find yourself feeling anxious, typically it's brought on by not having anything else to think about, so you spend your time thinking about everything or obsessing over one thing. Whether you go to the gym, read a book, cook a meal, play with your dog. You are not allowing yourself the opportunity to think about everything and thereby you reduce any liklihood of feeling anxious.
4. Get your feelings out when anxiety starts to set in and overwhelms you. When I found myself in the midst of a panic attack and there was nobody to turn too, I decided to start this blog because I felt that I had to get these feelings out. Granted therapy is one source of release but unless your made of money and can afford to have an in house therapist at your beck and call and your friends aren't nocturnal creatures of the night, your going to have to find another means to do it. It worked for me and Im no different than any of you, trust me it works.
I guess for now these 4 simple steps can help you get started to feel better and less anxious. I truly hope this works for you because I understand what your going through. I was just tired of feeling the way I was and these 4 simple steps really helped me. I hope to hear your stories because I care to know that your feeling better, each one of you deserves a life free of anxiety and panic. Life is too short and if you believe that, your half way on the road to feeling less anxious because that will focus your thinking on appreciation of life rather than a search for one. Keep me updated and I wish you all better health and a better state of mind.
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4 comments:
Excellent tips, I just tried some of them and feel ALOT better. Thanks The People!
You are so right about just taking things moment to moment. Everytime I get caught up in thinking way into the future, I definately start feeling anxious, I will make sure to try and slow myself down more. Thanks for the advice!
You are so right about acceptance being the key to managing anxiety, it is a step that feels liberating. Like you, I had been thinking along these lines, and had a particular (testing) moment when I remembered to accept it; standing in the library, reaching for a book and irritated and slightly self-conscious to see my hand was shaking. As usual, I tried to hide it - then thought, this is what I am being treated for, the reason I'm unable to work at the moment, I do suffer from anxiety - and it's o.k., doesn't make me a weak or 'bad' person, or even mean people view me in that way - it's just something I'm going through, and for now is one aspect of who I am.
Trying to suppress our true identity will always leave us vulnerable to our ailments. Feeling anxiouis is a perfectly normal emotion, however if we try to seal those emotions and turn a blind eye to them we are essentially waging war on our own emotions and becoming a victim. If we want to be the victor we must face our ailments head on and then we'll find ourself in a position of strentgh and gradually we'll become victorious. Im proud of you clickchick, and I hope that your new found optimism will yield you better health and a better state of mind.
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